Kate Kauffman: Litigation abuse doesn’t always look like abuse.

It looks like paperwork.
It looks like “concern.”
It looks like “protecting the kids.”

But the truth is – it’s about control.

It’s filing motions, not to solve anything, but to create more problems.

It’s making false accusations, so you’re always defending yourself.

It’s using the court, as a way to stay connected to you… long after the relationship is over.

It’s delaying.
Dragging things out.
Dismissing and refiling – knowing time, stress, and money are part of the plan.

It’s weaponizing “concern” or “parenting” to make you look like the problem.

It’s keeping you stuck in a system that was never designed to protect you from someone like this.

It’s not about justice.
It’s about keeping power.

And until more people understand that… survivors will continue to be punished for protecting their peace.

If you’ve experienced this – you’re not crazy.
You’re not alone.

It’s not just you.
It’s a pattern.
And it’s abuse.

Read more: Check out this related post that explains why litigation abuse works!